Michelangelo said he didn’t create David; he allowed David to reveal himself. He was the vehicle that allowed the image within the stone to become manifest. I see this as the gift of purpose at the core of all of our beings; I feel we are born with it. The work then is to find the catalysts that break away the compensations we have created around us preventing us from being in the discomfort of who we are.

It’s critical in this societal structure for our children to discover their unique and innate gifts whilst this covering is still membranous and porous … before all the layers have turned to stone … before they need hammer and chisel to get to the core of who they were born to be.

I am an advocate for the work of uncovering through authentic living who each of us was born to be so that our meaning creation becomes the vehicle for the gifts we can offer up.

Contact me here if you would like to do the work of soul and purpose; if you are ready to walk your path.

People use money as a tool of compliance — blackmail you into giving up your authenticity and your dreams. People bind money to love so it warps the notion of love and creates fear in the void where love is meant to be.

You’re not alone if you feel bound to a system like a family, a job or a spouse, enmeshed in the indoctrination and gaslighting around not being able to make it alone, not being able to stand on your own two feet without their financial input. There are many people who remain bound to a dysfunctional family or don’t leave a job or a spouse because the system they are in has undermined their ability to such a degree that they are immobilised by their perceived inability to survive without them. These same systems also make sure the individual doesn’t have any outside interests (no moonlighting in a work contract) or friends outside of the system who might influence them to recognise their are trapped in an unhealthy place.

We’ve been duped; we’ve got it all wrong! Progress isn’t about getting more; it’s about learning to live with less. Financial abuse is when people use money as a tool against you, to manipulate, to coerce you. It happens in families, marriages and in workplaces. Sustainability means giving stuff up so you aren’t constantly striving for more stuff and then having to support the attainment of said stuff by sacrificing the parts of your live that would essentially negate your need to attain said stuff in the first place. To create a sustainable lifestyle, find out what you value most and what matters most to you and hold those things with more reverence than the stuff you think you need to get in order to prop up your values on a pseudo pedestal. Because when things fall apart, which inevitably they always do, you will still have the things you need to sustain you — the things that money and status and cars and jobs can’t give you.

Abundance is love, kindness, joy and ease … it is a settling into the simplicity that everything is available.

“The world has enough for everyone’s need but not for everyone’s greed.” Mahatma Gandhi

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Are you ready to change your perspective?
Are you ready to shift the way you view yourself, your environment and your community?
Are you ready to break free of your comfort zone and discover what’s on the other side?

I am a PCC Certified Integral Coach® (UCT GSB) and a disruptor.

In all the work I do, my focus is on you, the individual, and how you can live your best life. This means I don’t look at patching you together so that you can re-enter a dysfunctional job, family, friendship or other environment. Instead we co-create a new way of being that consciously connects you to your purpose so that you can make the necessary changes for your environment to better serve who you are and the gifts you have to manifest in the world. 

Shift who you are, where you want to belong and how you want to live the lifestyle you dream of … then  allow everything else to fall into place around that.

Book your free 20-minute Chemistry Call and open your mind, your heart and your vision to be the person you were born to be.

I look forward to working with you.

With love 🤍 and blessings 🙏🏼

There is a conditioned response to the somatic (mostly unwitting and unchecked) resistance to the felt sense of whatever is happening in the moment and, as with any form of conditioning, it can be reprogrammed with access to an equal measure of considered and conscious resourcing. 

Struggle can be used as a tool to justify one’s actions or one’s suffering and prevent one from fulfilling one’s dreams and desires and successes because it has become too painful to let go of the pain, and the samsara it locks us into. Often it’s just easier to be in the struggle than to step up and show up so it’s important to not get too attached to the strapping and then fail to acknowledge that the wound is no longer there. Letting go of the identity of injury can be empowering and can create the space for taking on the responsibility of stepping fully into one’s essential self. Treating your struggle or your wound as your Everest or Kilimanjaro can provide the telos to pull you on the very path you need to traverse towards your recovery and integration; it can be your elixir or your golden thread that highlights your unique gifts. We are not here to be perfect, we are here to heal. And the first part of any healing process is to recognise the wound as a symbol of healing rather than as an obstacle in its way.

Through a combination of trauma release exercises, yoga, meditation, chanting and light touch therapy, we can together co-create a safe holding space that gives your system permission to let go. This isn’t about fixing anything; it’s about finding a new set point from which you can operate more effectively without feeling under threat. 

Born feral, I spent my early years mostly naked and coated in mud, carving out sacred spaces in the roots of a huge tree at the foot of the garden to invite the tree spirits to come make magick with me and teach me through alchemical play. I was mostly wildly inappropriate, non-conformist and not of this world.

In an era of this unbridled freedom being less acceptable than the brutality of beating a child to tame them into someone more appropriate, I lost this spirit and filled the void with sugar, alcohol and general co-dependence to mask the shame I felt for desiring the wild connection to the tangled messy natural world.

Shame is not innate but something we are taught by the adults and society that shapes us — often by force and coercion — so as to better fit the expectations of a dysfunctional reality.

Finding my way back to who I was born to be has felt even more brutal than those early beatings and has taken repeatedly falling through crevasses, analogous of birthing portals into different origins, until I reconnected with full-bodied intentionality to resourcing through nature.

I recently went through another birth canal when I graduated as an Integral Coach with UCT GSB and recognised that resourcing with nature is not the same as embodying it. Walking the Otter Trail I further recognised that embodying nature is, for me, about accessing the feral and wildly inappropriate child within until she is fully integrated, living through me and pulling me in line with the trajectory of her playful nature spirit being.

This means no longer trying to fit in to be accepted by those who consider me to be inappropriate; neither does it mean adopting new age mantras that deny this reality … what it means for me is to simply embrace my inappropriateness and unashamedly love all of it; all of me.

“My life is my message.” Gandhi

I am a PCC Certified Integral Coach (UCT Graduate School of Business). Offering a range of specialised modalities, life experience and a unique skillset, I work functionally and dynamically from the foundations of your central nervous system to regulate, connect and integrate all levels of your consciousness — physical, vital, mental, relational and spiritual.

The Chinese symbols for listening are an ear and a heart and so it is, through opening my heart in deep listening, I invite you  to open your intuitive mind and wise heart to your innate embodied purpose. Knowing the path is not the same as walking the path, making it important to embark on an experiential process of discovery and creation of the path less trodden: to step onto the road meant only for you. 

I am an explorer, a pioneer and a pilgrim. Through decades of intentionally disrupting my own story, I bring the capacity to disrupt your story. I have learnt through experience that the greatest adventures—on mountains and in life—come from losing the path sometimes so that the less obvious pathways can be found. Obstacles are not intended to necessarily turn you back and can be used instead as a ratcheting open of your curiosity to the inner resourcing you can recruit in order to travel through and beyond them.

What I offer is an authentic expression of who I am so that you can find the same in yourself; a provocative invitation to shed the layers of who you’re not and find the courage to stand naked in the clothes you were born to wear so you can re-enter the world, your community and your immediate family with renewed vitality, confidence and calm. No one can become who they need to be by remaining who they are. Sometimes it takes crisis and sometimes curiosity; always it takes change.

Together we seek the questions for the answers you already hold within; together we co-create the map that best narrates your passage  towards your inner calling.

“Sooner or later we must realise there is no station, no one place to arrive at once and for all. The true joy of life is the trip.” ~ Robert Hastings

Joan Didion said you should be on nodding terms with some of the people you used to be but, for me, I can barely be on nodding terms with some of the people I am … so I kill them off like serial suicide. The death of a seed is the final death for that seed, but life emerges from each and every death–and from each and every seed–with appropriate dialogue with the universe. There are no endings, only beginnings, so if you want to have new birth, new revelation, new insight into life as you grow, you will have to learn to keep dying until you emerge exactly as the seed intended you to be. 

It has been said that the opposite of addiction isn’t sobriety but connection. As a child who grew up disconnected, it’s not surprising that I was a sugar addict from before I can remember and, since sugar is a gateway drug, it’s also not surprising that my need to numb out from my reality in the form of flavoured wine, parties, boys, exercise and multiple jobs and studies became my addiction as a teenager and young adult. Some addictions care at least on a healthy trajectory but, in my current reality, whatever is done as an intentional or unwitting distraction from wherever I currently find myself is an addiction none the less because it takes me away from my self, my body, my mind and my heart.

When I did my first Art of Living course 15 years ago and committed to first a week then a hundred days … and then some … of no alcohol, sugar, coffee, chocolate, junk food of any kind, it literally saved my life as I extracted myself from a dysfunctional marriage, toxic friendships, life-threatening lifestyle choices and began the process of full-being (I say being, not body because it was multi-dimensional) detoxification.

Because like attracts like, once the impurities in the physical, emotional, mental and psychic bodies have been released, the cravings automatically wane and an intentional (and often excruciatingly painful) shift in choices naturally, with time and practice (and a whole truck load of patience), brings a state of harmony between inner and outer.

It takes courage and it takes commitment because, with addiction, when you re-introduce the substance associated with trauma denial/alleviation, the cascade effect in the chemical process in the physical body will get triggered by the emotional body to automatically begin craving the substance or behaviour because, generally, no matter how much shadow work one does in the back of that cave, there are always triggers waiting to send that ricochet of bullets through your psyche.

I have conquered most of the addiction demons but I still have a ‘sweet tooth’. Over the decade and a half I have worked with this vigilantly and have transmuted my craving for sugar into something that looks like this. Perhaps my brain is tricked into believing it’s a sugary fix or perhaps it is just the right kind of dopamine kick to appeal to my bliss. Whatever it is, this is pure indulgence and deliciousness and it contains no sugar, no preservatives, no dairy, no gluten. Beneath the layer of organic figs, raisins, raw cashews, superfoods cacao nibs and goji berries is a smoothie bowl of superfood Lean Green protein mix and chia seeds. This post would quadruple in length if i were to endeavour to list the beneficial nutrients in this one bowl of breakfast. 15 years ago I was pre-diabetic; yesterday I had my blood sugar tested for a medical form and it couldn’t be more perfect. Change is never easy and sometimes it’s a revolutionary act … but it is inevitable and it is essential.

On Friday I completed my second coaching qualification with the UCT Graduate School of Business.

The past year has at times been harrowing as I have once again studied, coached, documented, submitted, researched, understood, doubted, wrestled … 

Mostly it has involved visiting the back of the cave where more deep excavation has been required to find my gifts within my wounds in order to more fully embody the unique way of being I bring to this Integral Coaching space.

If my life is a pilgrimage, I have trained intensively for this one, my backpack is packed and I am ready to walk the myriad paths for which my clients require a fellow pilgrim to assist them on their unique and specific journeys.

Have a scroll through my website and, when you’re ready to walk your path to purpose, CONTACT ME for a free 15-minute chemistry call to find out if you’d like to book me as your guide.