Unravelling

People often ask how I got from the 60-hour work week, shackled to a corporate desk in Investment Banking, to the fluidity and flexibility of a multi-faceted therapist, coach and guide.

In surrender, I reply … on my knees, with broken heart and shattered dreams. And not just the once.

For decades I did what I was meant to do to fit the societal construct of a productive adult contributing to a broken world. Nobody had versed me in the art of creative choices, the trust in intuition, and the capacity to follow my soul in life or in love.

We often think doing the work, the training, the emotional labour, means that we will be more resilient at times of challenge. But it’s often not true.

It is my role to guide you through the crises, that will ultimately bring growth and development, rather than numb you with more layers of bullshit just to temporarily help you ‘fit in’ with the essentially dysfunctional society in which you exist. Existential distress does not equate to mental disease; it means there is an inner tension pushing you through another birthing into a new way of existence. It is a calling to the you who needs to unravel in order to be rewoven.

Through the blend of modalities that I show up with in service to your wellbeing, there is an un-layering that occurs to reveal your values and roles, or bring you to a place of balance  from where you can better develop those values in order to find belonging through authenticity rather than through merely adopting the values of those around you and ultimately adapting to a system that doesn’t resonate with your true need to find meaning.

It is important to find the core strength to stand out rather than fit in; to add rather than adapt; to live your own life rather than exist in others’. You don’t come into the world; you come out of it.

As a nomad on life’s landscapes I have developed the skills and wisdom to guide you to a deep exploration of who you are, what your gifts are and how to live your truth and purpose into the world with curiosity and compassion.

People call me courageous because of how I approach life. The word courage comes from cor meaning heart so, yes, this is a word I live into the world … one day at a time.

I blend my studies with my experience and I bring a deep wisdom, tempered with ignorance, into the world.

I invite you to explore your inner world like a true adventurer.

I am an energetic accumulation of my life force, my experiences, my research, my studies, my connections and my family tree; I am you in me and I am me in you.

Don't try and be Happy

These times we are traversing present us with unprecedented challenges with no real reference points to provide a safety net or anchor point of stability. It can send the most resilient of us into overwhelm.

I am not a believer in false positivity and inauthentically striving to be happy. I am a believer in being present for whatever presents itself and in fully showing up for it.

If anxiety wants your attention – or fear, or anger – be present for it as though it’s a small child that’s scared, crying for attention, in need of some reassurance. Pick it up and really connect with it to find out what it wants … then wrap it up, comfort it and put it to bed.

If you’re trying to be happy all the time, you probably won’t be happy – it’s like giving the baby a pacifier and waiting for it to figure out it hasn’t actually gotten what it needs … all those ignored emotions will keep vying for your attention.

But if you let go on your fixation with happiness, the fullness of all that you are will be able to emerge and guess how that’s going to make you feel?

Yeah …! Happy :)