Don't try and be Happy

These times we are traversing present us with unprecedented challenges with no real reference points to provide a safety net or anchor point of stability. It can send the most resilient of us into overwhelm.

I am not a believer in false positivity and inauthentically striving to be happy. I am a believer in being present for whatever presents itself and in fully showing up for it.

If anxiety wants your attention – or fear, or anger – be present for it as though it’s a small child that’s scared, crying for attention, in need of some reassurance. Pick it up and really connect with it to find out what it wants … then wrap it up, comfort it and put it to bed.

If you’re trying to be happy all the time, you probably won’t be happy – it’s like giving the baby a pacifier and waiting for it to figure out it hasn’t actually gotten what it needs … all those ignored emotions will keep vying for your attention.

But if you let go on your fixation with happiness, the fullness of all that you are will be able to emerge and guess how that’s going to make you feel?

Yeah …! Happy 🙂

Darkness and Compassion

“Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.”

I was drawn to this quote by Pema Chödrön because of how it speaks to the work I do. Because we are all the walking wounded, the terms healer and wounded in the context of the therapy space are interchangeable.

I am reminded of the rich and vivid, DESIDERATA, which guides one in the understanding that one should never take anything for granted because “always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself”, mostly because I am acutely aware in my healing sessions that often the very thing my clients come to me for are the things I need to learn. And, although I have been on a long and arduous journey towards my own spiritual, emotional and mental health, I am in no way a master because we are none of us finished products in the passage towards the ultimate light of awakening.

What I can say, in my deepest truth, is that part of the reason I am such a good facilitator of this work is because I have walked through many a dark night of the soul and I know my darkness well. And, because of this, I have developed compassion enough to sit with you in your darkness and share our mutual humanity. I continue to step into my greatest areas of growth and I will never stop because I will never be done. We teach each other because, as Ram Das famously says, “we are all just walking each other home.”

Craniosacral Therapy & the Subconscious Mind

There is a revolutionary shift in healing perspective when you can praise your body’s illness. When symptoms appear it is because your body is intelligent enough to dialogue with you — often after long periods of repression — about showing up for yourself to release holding patterns trapped in your cells.

Craniosacral Therapy gently supports the unwinding and release of traumas and stresses that are causing the symptoms, thereby allowing the mind body connection the libido to return to a more balanced function.

True healing comes when you can treat your illness as an old friend who’s come for tea and a candid conversation.

What is it that I do …?

We are programmed to put our power in the hands of others — the so-called experts, who are given carte blanche to decide our fate based on the very limited perceptions they have of our unique individuality.

I have explored all avenues for someone to show me what my life purpose is but I have never expected anyone else to decide who I am and what I am here for.

Through techniques including astrology, Enneagram, chakra work, Tarot, numerology, Vipassana, body work, art medicine, dance and plant medicine journeys, I have explored my inner landscapes like a true nomad and I have gathered fragments of my psyche, physicality and emotional makeup to stitch together the essence that is me.

Craniosacral Therapy — in the form that I practice it … not prescriptive but functional — bringing in all the aspects of my own journey — is my superpower.